Posted by: Rose Tol, R&I Life Coaching, February 22, 2013, Relationship Quotes in Relationships Questions
In these modern times where personal development and self improvement is becoming mainstream I feel at times bombarded by all the so called inspirational quotes. Don't get me wrong, I love inspirational quotes, but I love them when they hit the truth head on. Many inspirational quotes these days have a grain of truth but it feels to watered down in my heart.
Inspirational quotes have the power to change us in some way. Sometimes they change how we perceive something forever and can have life altering results.
So I decided to do the hard work for you. I have gathered 10 relationships quotes for you that have and had this kind of changing effect on me. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did and still do.
This relationship quote is a great basic teaching. It's power lies in it's simplicity. I spend so many years of my life pursuing that ideal relationship, I wanted to find my soul mate. Over the years I have come to realize bit by bit, that I cannot fill the hole and emptiness that I was feeling with someone from the outside and that any man, however good it gets, is not going to fulfill all my needs. Getting to this realization was truly freeing. I changed me into being more relaxed and free with a man and I started to take full responsibility for what was missing inside which led me down a path of rapid transformation which is the best thing that ever happened to me.
When I came across this relationship quote many years ago, it felt like I got a slap in my face. OUCH...that hurts. The truth this quote is pointing to was shining light to the places inside myself where I was not having the greatest respect for people, took people for granted and where I am arrogant and selfish. My relating with people changed dramatically. Today, with every person I meet, I try to give them my full attention
Sometimes we are all to eager to want to change the world or want to help change that person. It is lesson to learn that the way to contribute to change is to be the change ourselves. Gandhi is such a powerful example of this. Just by being the change himself he inspired a whole nation to be the change. And this relates to relationships in a simple way; be the friend that you want to have. Truth is simple, illusion is complicated.
When you love and right behind it is the fear of loosing this person, then it is not real love. Because it is love in attachment, and that is not real love. It is so easy to become dependent, co-dependent and even possessive with our partner and want exclusive rights. Soon we find our selves bound, we loose our individual identity and we loose our passion and the relationship becomes dead. In romantic love we want the other person but in real love we want the other person's good.
Early on in my transformation I noticed that my self absorption was in the way of me being able to connect with people in the way I wanted to, to know what is going with others around me and to be able to know what the thing is that could make a difference. Self absorption is such an insidious behavior and makes us blind to the many things around us. Most of the communicating that goes on in people is actually not verbal. The body language, the attitude, the tone of voice, what is not being said is so important to notice. If we care about others then we have to let go of self absorbed behaviors and be a little bit more still inside so that we can pay attention and pick up the signals, like spoken in the quote: silence is often the loudest cry.
These profound words of Mother Theresa take a lot of transformation and trust to understand. This is about the true understanding of not shutting your heart down. This is teaching how to keep the heart open through hurt. Very simply put, when you love so much, love until it hurts, and you feel the pain. Go through the pain and in the middle of the pain you will find that there is nothing but love, more love. The pain is the Love. This is not easy to understand and realize. It is good to know and then remember when you go through a time of heart break or hurt because there was the love and then the love got taken away.
This is a good quote to contemplate. In our modern day world, being monogamous is seen as a virtue. If you succeed in staying together with your partner for your whole life you are held in high regard. But what if some relationships are not meant to "last"? What if the reason why you came together has been fulfilled? I am not saying any which way is the right way. I think it is wonderful that you give yourself the permission to be open. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. Maybe, if you do not want to continue the relationship it does not mean that you failed? Stay open and have no judgments, communicate and you will find out what is right.