The purpose of venting is to get something out, to really be finished with something so you can let go of it. The purpose is not to complain or have someone agree with what you are venting about. You can use venting when something is festering within, or something is bothering you. Venting is a confidential time that is never to be disclosed.
If you are the one receiving the venting, listen
openly without judgment. Hear it as venting. Don’t give feedback at this
time. Once the venting is officially complete, the person may ask you
to give feedback to them for a few minutes and that would be fine. You
are not there to fix or solve anything for the person venting.
can also vent on a piece of paper rather than talk to someone. You
write, and when you are done, you throw the paper in the trash with the
intent to let go and change. The next day, if there is more, you can
You vent when something is pestering you. You vent because you think it will help you make a change.
the end of the venting session you are either done with it, and / or
you will have to move some feelings, and / or you are clear about some
actions to take or changes to make.
Whatever you do, have your venting move something that was in the way of you going forward.