Posted by: Rose Tol, R&I Life Coaching, March 14, 2013; Communication in a Relationship in Relationships
Good communication in a relationship creates love, care and respect.
is a most powerful skill and a must have to cultivate relationships that are
sustaining, meaningful, rich and lasting. Communication has the power to break
or make a relationship thus it is important you learn to keep clear with your
communications and keep sharpening your skills in this area as an important
step in keeping your relationship thriving. There has to be good communication in a relationship going on in order to discover if each others basic human needs are met.
If you have
build up resentments, anger, frustration, fear and regrets from the past then
it is important that you clear the air with each other. Best is that you have a
session with a counselor who can help you through this in a thorough way, where
you both feel heard and gotten by each other and you can let go of it. This
kind of work can be done in about 3 hours and the gift of it is you will have
so much more love and respect afterwards for each other.You then have a platform from which you can build while learning how to communicate effectively with each other and improve good communication in a relationship.
daily with each other about important things in your relationship. Share about
your needs being met, or not. Share the successes and the areas where you can
improve. Learn to listen to each other and learn so you can grow together. Couples spend often a lot of time together but it is not what I call quality time. Yes you are in each others vicinity and you do things together, yet you are not focusing on each other and sharing intimate moments of connection with each other. That is why it is important on a daily basis to sit down or lay down together, have no distractions and give each other your full attention.
Non verbal communication are all the ways you communicate that are not the words themselves, for instance your body language, your tone of voice etc. Discover your non-verbal habits of communicating and become an expert at knowing your partners. Do you know the comment: "But you were judging me? No I wasn't, I was just trying to help!" Well most of the time these interactions are born from the most important dynamic at times, and that is what is not said or what is said through our body language or tone of voice. Learn to detect these ways of communicating in yourself and others and will help you to communicate in a way that positively moves things forward.
communicate how you feel instead of what you think. This is especially an area
for the men to pay attention to. Sharing your deeper feelings with each other
grows trust, clears the air and creates intimacy. And remember when your
partner shares their feelings...they are just feelings...they are not you. I say this again as this is a hard one to understand. You are not your feelings!